'Pretty privilege': University student mocked by the guys despite being the best in class, she gets petty revenge

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    Font - "AITA for reporting my classmates for joking that I have pretty privilege?"
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    Font - AITA for reporting my classmates for joking that I have pretty privilege? Background: I'm (F23) one of only a few female students in a male- dominated course. Furthermore, I am at a highly prestigious university and I haven't really gotten along with the guys on my course. They are all very competitive and I just don't really enjoy their company - everything turns into a pissing contest, and they definitely take me less seriously because I'm a woman. stopped interacting with them beyond t
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    Font - Anyway: I did well in our recent exams (I topped two out of four exams we had so far). Our prof congratulated me during class (I wouldn't have advertised this myself). Ever since then, my interactions with a specific group of male classmates have gotten weird. They're now outright rude and challenge me aggressively in class discussions. We recently had some presentations and one of them chose to do theirs on, to put it simply, "pretty privilege" - they specifically pointed to two papers t
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    Font - I've been seeing a PhD student within our department for a month. He has literally nothing to do with our course. Well, we ran into one of my course mates A together. The next day in class his friend B asked me if "my boyfriend" helped me with exams. He said this intentionally loudly and in front of the professor, who heard this. I replied that I don't have a boyfriend (cause he's not my bf), but then B pointed out that he had run into me with the PhD student, making a point to say his na
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    Font - They didn't let up - I heard that they discussed this thing in two more classes, in earshot of the professors. Both times they suggested I got help for my exams (I wasn't even seeing him then). I didn't confront them, but this has been causing me so much anxiety - even without the exam accusations, I worked hard to get here and I don't want to be known among the faculty for my dating life.
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    Font - I raised this issue with my supervisor, without the intention of taking it any further, but I wanted her advice as a woman in academia. She convinced me to let her email their supervisors "to remind them of proper conduct" and described their treatment of an "unnamed female student". She didn't name me, but they figured it out. They confronted me after class and asked my why I would report their "silly joke". Apparently, their supervisors are now very cold towards them and less interested
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    Font - I now feel a bit embarrassed and this was compounded by a friend telling me I took it to far cause C shouldn't lose out on his scholarship. So, reddit - AITA? edit: grammer
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    Font - thirdtryisthecharm 18 hr. ago Prime Ministurd [463] ΝΤΑ Any retaliation should also be reported. They're angling for some big problems if they keep this up. 36.4k Reply Share
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    Rectangle - JungleKing65. 18 hr. ago Also I commend your courage in defending yourself. That takes tenacity! 12.7k Reply Share
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    Font - BelkiraHoTep 12 hr. ago Also, if C loses any financial aid, he lost it himself with his actions. He's now trying to emotionally black mail you into taking your accusation back. Don't let them win. 4.3k Reply Share
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    Font - Thoseferatus 7 hr. ago Also, I said this in my comment, but their false claims of her possibly cheating could have resulted in not just revocation of scholarships but full blown expulsion. 1.0k Reply Share
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    Font - GreaterAmberjack 18 hr. ago . NTA - they know what they're doing because jokers like this have been doing it for years - undermine your accomplishments, abilities and then act shocked question your when you stand up for yourself. I'm happy (and somewhat surprised) that the faculty and administration is treating this as seriously as it deserves.
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    Font - Maleficent-Day4476 OP 17 hr. ago its mainly my awesome supervisor - probs wouldn't have been supported by one of the many old men in the faculty 9.3k Reply Share
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    Rectangle - lordliv 18 hr. ago 2 NTA. 2 Tell them maybe people would be more motivated to help them if they smiled more. 11.4k Reply Share
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    Font - leveraction1970 17 hr. ago I would have gone with a very loud in front of the whole class "Are you saying that your grades are so low because of how ugly you are? That's not right. You should report that." You know, if It were me and I was a female. It's tough to pull off bitingly bi when you've got a beard and are built like a fireplug. 3.0k Reply Share
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    Font - anyoldname7 18 hr. ago If their "pretty privilege joke" made you lose out on a scholarship or caused you to be graded extra hard, they wouldn't give it a They intentionally and repeatedly made this "silly joke" out loud, in front of professors. NTA. Maybe they should have thought about treating you with respect and professionalism BEFORE it had to come from a place of authority. 8.4k Reply Share
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    Font - ncndsvlleTA 17 hr. ago . NTA, if misogynists want to be awarded scholarships then they should be quieter 5.1k Reply Share
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    Font - Dittoheadforever 18 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [46] You're NTA and it wasn't a "silly joke." It was repeated harassment and constant implications that you're not worthy of your grades and haven't earned your way to where you are. You don't deserve that and it should have been reported. It's a shame those guys are so insecure and jealous of your accomplishments, but any consequences that befall them are well earned. 3.9k Reply Share
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    Font - PJfanRI 18 hr. ago edited 17 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [43] ΝΤΑ They're harassing you, plain and simple. If they lose their financial aid its because of their own actions, not yours. You should be proud of yourself for standing up to their bullying.

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